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Dawn Stacey M.Ed, LMHC

If Mary was Pro-Choice... Bah-Humbug

By December 15, 2013

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I always love this time a year - with the holidays coming up, the air is full of festivity and joy. This should be a time of peace, yet my gaiety was completely curtailed when I pulled up behind a car that had a bumper sticker that read, "If Mary was Pro-Choice, There Would Be No Christmas." Is this really necessary? Was the driver of this car actually trying to convince me that Mary (if she was not against abortion) would have aborted God's child if this option was available to her? Seems to me that this is an insult to God than to those who are pro-choice supporters.

In any case, would it not be logical to assume that this whole pro-choice/pro-life debate may actually be two heads of the same coin? Since the Roe v. Wade decision in 1973, there have been over 45 million women in the US who have chosen to have safe, legal abortions. Three decades later, this landmark decision remains to be one of the most debated of all time. My respect goes out to all those who have bravely fought and continue to do so to preserve the RIGHTS afforded to women in the United States. Let's face it, regardless to one's belief in the morality of abortion, it would be irresponsible to ignore the reality. There are 3 million unplanned pregnancies in the US every year. Respected research consistently shows that the rise of contraceptive use results in reduced abortion rates.

The national number of abortions is down, yet teen pregnancies are still a problem. We have both pro-choice and pro-life groups advocating their position, protesting, and rallying for support everyday. In the spirit of the holiday season, would it be so bad to drop the agendas and REALIZE that we all basically agree on the same goal - to lower the number of abortions. For those of us in the real world, it can't be denied that birth control and abortion both represent alternative means of achieving the same goal: the prevention of unwanted babies. Instead of arguing about the immorality of abortion, efforts should be made to advocate solutions to the prevention of unintended pregnancy.

Why has our culture equated the notion of "choice" as synonymous with abortion? Perhaps, we all need to remember that choice actually means the right or power to CHOOSE - as women, we can choose to get married, get a job, have sex and become mothers. Part of that choice may be to delay motherhood, through the use of contraception or abortion. Life is full of choices to be made. So, when I come across ignorance, such as that of the person who attaches such an outlandish and ridiculous bumper sticker - during what should be a time of harmony and goodwill to mankind - I become saddened as I am reminded that though we could all work together to reach the same goal, people must still be divided and determined to spread their agenda in any possible way.

How about a bumper sticker that reads, "Against Abortion? Don't Have One" - because when it comes down to it, all Roe v. Wade has done is provided women with choice. What we each do with that choice, is personal and private. And what Mary would have done with that choice, is speculation that is pointless to consider and really just serves to undermine the whole spirit of the season.  Bah-humbug!

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December 16, 2012 at 10:28 am
(1) Trista says:

I think some of these real religious persons need to rely more on common sense than bible rhetoric. Dawn has made an important point in this blog – the need for everyone to work together to prevent unintended pregnancies. Some pro-lifers are so quick to put down the pro-choicers yet are just as guilty by making comments (like those to this blog) to try to further THEIR message. This is not helpful. Thanks Dawn for trying to get people to rise above this immature behavior.

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