How I Approached the Sex Subject With My Child
I have sat my son down several times and just brought it up!
The Major Points I Made
We've had the talk (actually many talks) about sex and contraception. I have come to realize, though, that even though we talked about birth control, I never told him specifically about how to get it.
It's been a while since we talked about things and now that he's getting older, I probably need to make it clear that I don't want him doing it, but the safe option exists so PLEASE don't go without contraception because you don't know how to access it.
Advice
- Keep the talks coming - sex and birth control discussions should be ongoing
- Express your values and your wished but remain flexible
- If your teen is going to have sex, don't put your head in the sand, explain the importance of contraception as well as where to get it
How Old Was Your Child When You Had the Sex Talk?
13
What Questions Did Your Kids Ask You?
So many - a lot had to do with misconceptions (its a good thing I knew the material well enough to debunk the myths he has heard).
How Were You Feeling During the Sex Talk?
A little uncomfortable at first - now it is much easier.
What Surprised You the Most? Any Regrets?
It dawns on me that we never really talked about access to contraceptives. I've never just said, flat out, "If you need condoms, here's where they are or come ask me or..." I guess I need to do that.
