Because of the 1973 Supreme Court case, Roe v. Wade, when facing an unplanned pregnancy, one option available for you to choose is abortion. Even though abortion is the most common surgical procedure performed for women in the U.S., it is also the most stigmatized. The decision to terminate a pregnancy is a topic that is rarely openly discussed.
If you have made this decision, why did you choose abortion? Share your story in making this difficult and complex decision as well as your emotional journey throughout the experience. Please know that your privacy will be upheld, and your choice will be respected and not debated here. By sharing your reasons for choosing abortion, you are putting a personal stamp on an issue that many do not understand. Revealing your abortion story may help other women who are considering whether or not to choose abortion as well as helping to decrease the stigma and misunderstandings about this sensitive issue. Share Your Choice
I was Pro-Life but Acted Pro-Baby
- I was 18 and in college when I chose abortion. I was 7 weeks and 5 days along. I had been pro-life my entire life and was raised in a strict Catholic family. When I found out I was pregnant (a shock since we were using contraception), I wanted to keep the baby. After long discussions with my boyfriend, we realized that we were young with bright futures ahead of us. We simply weren't ready. I went against everything I believed in because I felt that it was just as sinful to bringing a child into this world that I could not afford or be a good mother to. After the abortion, I had many recurring thoughts questioning my decision and trying to put it in the context of my religious views. Despite all that, its been almost 3 years and I am completely at peace with my decision to choose abortion. I am pursing a Masters degree and am building a life where I could happily welcome a new baby into sometime in the future.
- —Guest Keely
Difficult but Right
- To be honest, I never thought it would happen to me. I was using the pill but got pregnant anyway. I chose abortion because I couldn't see a way to raise three children on my one income. We just moved to a new city then my husband left me. I was raising 2 kids on my own in a new place with no family or resources. Not a good time to become pregnant. I spent many painful hours thinking about this decision. I knew it wouldn’t be fair to the new baby or to my other kids – living in a 2 bedroom apt on welfare. So, after much soul-searching, I had an abortion during my first trimester. It turns out that I ended up getting back together with my husband (months later). It would be so easy to play the "what if" game, but I can’t let myself do that. Who knows what would have happened if I kept the baby? There will always be a twinge of pain, but NO regrets. In my heart, I know that I made the best choice at the time.
- —Guest Clover
- I am 21 and this will be my 3rd abortion.Now going on my 3rd which I am painfully embarrassed of, I'm torn in between decisions.Still w/ the same guy from my second I recently found out that I am about 6 weeks pregnant. After we talked we both came to the conclusion that i still am not ready mainly because of financial reasons. I've only finished school to gain a certificate which I am not even working in that field.I work a minimum wage & barely supporting myself.Recently my bf or should I say ex bf are currently at a stand still in our relationship due to domestic violence in which I am the victim. Right now at this very moment for some reason this abortion is the hardest decision out of all of them. In my heart I feel emotionally that I am ready.But given the financial situation and the fact that I've justs learned that the father of my child is abusive, this sad decision is one that I'm forcing myself to make. My heart is broken.
- —Guest Light
We can barely afford 3
- I'm currently laid off from a great position with a city agency. My husband had been a stay at home dad due to the single income, but has found a craptacular night job to help make ends meet. We lost all health insurances with my lay off and rely on state aid now. My husband and I weren't even sexually active yet. I had post partum cycles I'd been tracking and that week we should have been safe. Turns out I ovulated a week early. There was no way we could afford another child. I feel hypocritical because we have 3 beautiful kids and I had to turn down becoming a mom for the 4th time. I know this was best for our family, I just hate the timing of it all. I'm also angry that what should have been a safe week wasn't while my medical abortion went fine, I hated that as usual I had to endure something birth related that my husband could never totally understand.
- —Guest Anon
- I am 23 years old and I have 2 daugthers i love very much (one 7 an the other 3). I have had 2 abortions already in my life due to being young and unsafe with sex. I just found out i am pregnant with my 3 baby. I am a single mom and am struggling evey day to keep afloat. I have made appt to end my pregnancy. But for some resson this decision has become very hard. I don't know if I am going to keep it or abort. I don't wont to live with regrets but i don't wont to regret the child either...I am so unsure but I pray i make the right choice.
- —Guest ashley
In the end...
- I am a 22 year old college student. My family falls into the 1% of America. The 'wealthy'. Due to this, I was never required to work nor support myself. As long as I was doing well in school, my family told me they would care after me. Two weeks ago, I found out I was pregnant. The first words out of my boyfriends mouth was "When is the abortion?". My mother told me that if I decided to keep the child, I would be forced out of the house and written off as dead. I have no way of supporting myself in this world yet and while I know I could get onto welfare, that doesn't seem like the right thing to do. It just hurts everyone. With a heavy heart, I went into an abortion clinic yesterday; protestors screaming at me for being a horrible person. I wish I could have found a way to keep my baby. But in the end, I cannot force my boyfriend to be a father if he doesn't want it, and I cannot survive without the help of my family. I was caught between a rock and a hard place. I hope I chose right.
- —Guest Here's to hoping
- I am a 49 yo woman who had a safe, legal abortion almost 30 years ago and have never regretted it for a moment. I encourage each woman to make this decision based upon her individual circumstances. Had it not been legal I would have gone to a back alley butcher.
- —Guest Thinker
- I will always wish someone had told me that adoption was a responsible and admirable option. I was far too young to have a child and in a brand new relationship. Ten years later we are still together and still childless, having been unable to conceive since the abortion. If I had adopted out my child at least they would still be out there somewhere, living with a chance of happiness. And maybe I would still be able to have other kids- but even if I couldn't, that knowledge that my child lived would at least be there. Even though I justified the decision at the time, tried to convince myself it was in the baby's best interests as well as our own, now all I have is sorrow and regret and the guilt of knowing I prevented a beautiful life from entering this world. As someone who now wants to adopt I know the pain of the couples who desire to care for the children whose parents can't, but I feel too guilty to care for someone else's child when I didn't give the same gift to someone else.
- —Guest Friend
Not the Right Time
- I am 22 loving at home with parents. My boyfriend has ended our relationship after finding out I'm pregnant. I am on a gap year and returning to university in September, I have student loan debts not a stable work schedule as I will be a student Teacher which means no income. I cannot financially support a family, my parents are unaware as I will be kicked out? The pregnancy was a accident, and I do not feel ready to be a parent. Think I will have to terminate - this is not the right time to have a baby.
- —Guest Star
I miss my Angel; Mommys so sorry baby
- To any young girl who is confused or scared please read our stories before you make your choice. Im 18 and I chose medical (oral) abortion 6 months ago. I was always pro-life, the type that couldnt even harm a fly, yet here i am confessing the murder of my own child. No body tells you that your heart becomes bitter and cold. Truth is, its the worst decision you live with forever. Its normal to be scared and stressed. But i didnt realize that at the time and i wish i knew then what i know now. I cry all the time feeling sorry for no one but my daughter or son who i named Angel. I dont want to relive the day, April 5th, 9 weeks pg, 5 hours after i took the first pill, I was on the toilet, loosing so much blood and golf balls of clots, soon after, Angel came out. (Sigh) I saw my babys heart, their little hands twitching, I was screaming, crying, apologizing to Angel for the HUGE mistake Mommy and daddy made. I pray everyday to not only God but to Angel, that they forgive me :(
- —Guest Misses her baby
- I found out I was pregnant in December 2011. I got an abortion because I was only three months pregnant and I already had an 8 month old baby. I could hardly afford all the things my baby needed, so I didnt think it would be fair to bring another baby into the world knowing I could not afford to take care of it. I got an IUD inserted right after my abortion in hopes of not getting pregnant again.
- —Guest lala
Never any other option
- My (now-)ex and I had been using condoms, but there was a mishap and it never occurred to me to get Plan B (even though we had gone that route earlier in the relationship for a similar incident). When I found out I was pregnant, I knew I did not plan to keep it, but I asked him. He said he was not ready to be a dad. The next day, I scheduled the appt., and a little later (at 6.5 weeks), I was shoving pills up my vagina. It was the worst pain (inc. labor since) that I have ever experienced, and I did it all solo (under the impression he wouldn't fall asleep while I cried and bled in the shower or go to work the next day--ha!). BUT those were the only negatives, as I can see it. If I had let that fetus develop, neither of us would have been good parents (together or separately). I have never felt guilt, except for feeling as though I should not have to hide my story. I know that I am a great mom to my daughter now (who would not otherwise exist) and can give her a good life.
- —Guest margaret
- I became pregnant when I was 24 - at the time, I had a 3 year old and was not married. Because of a medical situation, I only had 2 choices... wait until I miscarried (but the drs were concerned that they couldn't control the bleeding when this happened) or choose an abortion. I was told that there was no chance that my baby would survive. I was able to have a safe abortion and have not regretted this choice. Even though I did lose one baby, I am still an alive and healthy mom to my son.
- —Guest Opal
- I didnt choose abortion. at the time my boyfriend and I had 1 child and he didnt waant to be tied down by kids. He wanted to party at the clubs and cheat and while I was on birth control I became pregnant for the second time. He didnt care at all. all he cared about was me getting rid of baby number 2. Then about a year later came baby 3. He expressed to me he did not want anymore kids. I aborted the 3rd one. I became pregnant a fourth time and my son will be 11 in august. now in my late thirties I realize how i didnt do this for me I did it for him. I didnt know the consequesnses of my ignorance. I am sorry i did it. really sorry. Make the choice for yourself. You have the right to choose no matter what anyone says.
- —Guest mistakes I made in my 20
- I had a late term abortion and everyday I wish I would have did it different. Boy or girl, I will never know : ( -- it's been 2 years and I still wonder!
- —Guest .....