Though vasectomies are over 99% effective, men may:
- Feel uneasy having a doctor tinker around their "manhood" with a scalpel (yet you can get a no-scalpel vasectomy)
- Falsely think getting a vasectomy will lower your sex drive, testosterone levels and/or affect sexual performance
- Fear pain after a vasectomy
- Are scared of regretting this choice and may want a vasectomy reversal
- Think a vasectomy costs too much
If you're considering getting a vasectomy, what are your fears? What's preventing you from getting a vasectomy?Share Your Concerns
Do it, Do it!!
- I had my Vasectomy after our last child was born (23 years ago) and at first I was scared. I thought that I would not be able to have "fluid" or that "O". I was wrong on both accounts. It is so "free" to be able have an "O" without pulling out and it "freed" up my wife to enjoy intimacy more!!
You Read My Mind - A Concerned Sex Lover
- Okay, I don't want to sound like a wimp, but let's face it... a vasectomy is probably going to hurt. To be honest, I was more worried about my voice changing, losing some chest hair and not having any desire for sex. Up until I read Dawn's blog about this (Thanks Joey for asking the question for all us dudes), I seriously was afraid that a vasectomy would take away my manhood. To know that I will still be my macho, sex-seeking, sex-wanting, and sex-enjoyinng self will make this an easier decision to make. I can handle a few days of pain if I know that I can be back in the saddle enjoying sex again real soon!
- —Guest Nathaniel
What a Relief!
- I have been considering a vasectomy for over 6 months. I actually made an appointment and cancelled at the last minute. My friends said it would ruin my sex life. After reading your blog today. And the article telling the truth about how vasectomies don't make sex less enjoyable, I think that I will go ahead and make that appointment (maybe even surprise my wife!!)
- —Guest TJ
- All the concerns that guys have, women have as well - yet we love you enough to do it or at least think about it. When we have a tubal ligation, there is pain, its permanent, we may loss our sex drive, we may be psychologically scared, we get cut down there a lot. We might also want to have kids if we get married again. Women have to go through so much - a vasectomy is a man's way to shoulder some of the responsibility!!
- —Guest upset mom
Find the right surgeon
- I only had mine yesterday. That being said it only took about ten minutes. My surgeon was amazing. Of course there was a bit of discomfort but the only thing that "hurt" was the small needle to deliver the local anesthetic. My wife and I never wanted children and this was OUR decision and we will never regret it over a couple days of discomfort.
- —Guest Trevor
- I'm a little concerned as I have a vericose vein in my scrotum (varicocele), so I'm not sure what to expect, or if it's done local/general. If I didn't have the vericocele issue, I'd have a vasectomy tomorrow.
- —Guest Dave
Vasectomy ruined my life
- I had a vesectomy Jan.24,2013 and not a day has gone by where I have not been in pain and regretted my decision. It has put a strain on my marriage and I have lost alot of time with my kids, performing daily tasks is painful and putting all my problems in this post would take forever. In short i have PVPS, sperm granulomas, sex drive is not the same, I never get a arroused spontaneously, sex drive is gone, and I have pelvic floor dysfuntion from the surgery. All I can say is DO NOT DO IT.Wear a condom, way less risk.
- —Guest VancouverBC-JL
It's really no big deal
- If anyone out there is reading this, I just got snipped yesterday and it was a simple fast procedure. Obviously a little uncomfortable, but nothing to worry about. Fast and easy.
- —Guest Lee
Vasectomy can cause life long pain
- Even the AUA guidelines state that there is a 2% change of permanent chronic and sometimes debilitating pain after vasecotmy that requires additional surgery. One of those surgical options is having part or all of your testicles removed. Do your research. My vasectomy didn't hurt, but within a year I had pain. If you are older considering condoms until your wife hits menopause. Men and women should share the responsibility. Just because women have the babies does not mean men have any obligation to let someone cut them down there. That's BS. Do your research. Most guys are okay, but if you're an unlucky one you will find out that there are very few qualified doctors that will be able to help you.
- —Guest Permanent Pain
Safer for me than her
- We have 7 children. She went thru the pain and suffering of natural child birth, and a surgery for her tubes to be tied. Her tubes were tied, she got pregnant, and had to have surgery for a tubal and baby removal. Any birth control option for a woman has high risks of cancer and eptopic pregnancy. Its only fair for a man to suffer a little so his wife wont suffer a lot.
- —Guest Shannon
I want to, but for less noble reasons
- I am wanting to do it, but I don't have kids, or even a wife or girlfriend. I want to do it to make sure I never have kids, because quite frankly, I don't want any. Plus, I'll be better financially, and besides, there are already over seven billion people on the Earth. Why should I have to add to the population?
- —Guest Eric
- I am going in for a tubal ligation my husband and I decided years ago to not have kids and i'm now 38 and still get clucky but dont want my own but now it's a case off having this op i cant stop crying because i know that that option really is shut off to me for ever and I cant wrap my head around this feeling, it's just so final when that door is closed, I cant describe what i'm feeling it just feels funny i cant exprese it has anyone had these feelings or am i the only one?
side effects and cost without insurance
- I am worried about the side effects that can happen as well as how much would it cost without insurance.
- —Guest roy
- What worries me is both the chronic pain and the risk of autoimmune diseases. I already have rheumatoid arthritis and take a lot of different immunosuppressants, the thought of the condition getting worse and having more chronic pain scares me. Isn't that reasonable?
- —Guest worried man
Do you and I'll do me.
- I believe it is selfish of the guy to not at least grasp what women deal with in their child bearing years. To insist that they go through further procedure and changes so you can remain the same and protect your psychological well being is unfair. I can't make you take any kind of birth control responsibility in our later years and you can't make me have sex with you when I come off birth control. Your psychological well being in left in tact and my body is free of additional hormones! Hey, Life is great for both of us.
- —Guest Guest Nellie